Sex
in marriage is usually available, but not always necessarily enjoyable.
Generally, sex in marriage is a duty-bound venture.
A couple has to sleep
together sexually because they are duty-bound to service their union. But,
great sex which has to do with sexual fulfilment requires more than sleeping
together. I wonder how many couples are really enjoying great sex. That
we have to talk about it always at home, among friends, clubhouses and other
joints may not be unconnected with the fact that quite a lot of married folks
don’t enjoy great sex often.
For
sex to be great, certain things must be in place. When they are not in place,
great sex in marriage becomes an illusion. I term those things as hindrances to
great sex, and they include the following.
Financial
stress
Financial
stress puts a lot of strain on couples. When bills are not met, one will have
to do a lot of thinking as to how to secure fund. As a result, one, especially
the wife, is not tuned up for great sex. She is the one who has to manage the
meagre resources available for the home front. And these days, when the wives
are also involved in providing for the home, it becomes double burden - to
provide and to manage. When energy has been so much dissipated on funding the
marriage, the last thing usually on the wives’ mind is sex. So, couples should
plan their finances in such a way to make it less stressful. Also, skills must
be developed to tune their mind up for sex under such stressful financial
situation.
Emotional
stress
Sex
is a thing of the mind, especially for the wife. When a person is not happy in
the marriage, sex cannot be great. Couples should ensure they avoid things that
will make them unhappy in marriage. These are things that make us feel we are
not loved, appreciated, or we are wrongly married. Like a wife put it the other
day, “how can I have sex when I am not happy in the marriage?’’ Sex is also
called ‘lovemaking,’ and when one does not feel loved, he/she cannot enjoy
great sex in marriage.
Physical
stress
When
a person is physically exhausted, sex is not usually enjoyable. The struggle
for survival puts a lot of drain on the energy. Couples should learn how to
free some energy for sexual enjoyment. Nothing stops the husbands from helping
out on the home front to help their wives reserve energy for bed activity. It
is needful these days when both partners are engaged in providing for the home.
If we share financial responsibility, should it not cut across board? An
exhausted partner cannot be available for great sex.
Couples
should also ensure they stay healthy if they are going to be physically fit for
great sex. Practice of good healthy living life must be embraced by couples.
Also,
couples must learn to manage their schedule in order to have time for sexual
activity together. Sex is a major aspect of a marriage, which if not fulfilled,
portends great danger for the marriage. Conscious effort and sacrifice must be
made to ensure that great sex is made available in the marriage, if marriage
will survive.
Source:
tribuneonlineng
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