The trouble with sexual behaviour of African males
A woman is at home when she hears someone knock at the door.
She goes to the door and
sees a man standing there.
He asks the lady, “Do you have a vagina?”
She slams the door in
The next morning, she
hears a knock at the door and it is the same man asking the woman ‘Do you have
a vagina’? She slams the door again.
Later that night, when
her husband gets home she tells him what has happened for the last two days.
The husband tells the
wife in a loving and concerned voice, “Honey, I am taking tomorrow off to be
home, in case this guy shows up again.”
The next morning they
hear a knock at the door and both of them run for the door.
The husband says to the
wife in a whispered voice, “Honey, I’m going to hide behind the door and
listen. If it is the same guy, I want you to answer ‘yes’ to the question
because I want to see where he is going with it.”
She nods and opens the
door. Sure enough, the man asks the same question.
“Do you have a vagina?”
“Yes”, she says.
The man replies: “Good.
Would you mind telling your husband to leave my wife’s alone and start using
So, here we are this
My 14-year-old niece was
hit on two times within five minutes by two old men at an ice-cream parlour in
Abuja. In fact, she told one of them, who asked for her phone number that she
was only 14, and he said, “Stop lying about your age.”
Another young girl was
accosted by a middle-aged man at the shopping mall. He approached her with
compliments about her beauty and then asked her out on a date. He did all
this while his wife and their two children popped into a shop. Can you imagine
what will happen if she goes away on holiday and he is left on his own? How
depraved and morally deficient?
The fact is that many of
these men are seemingly happily married. Some of them are even grandfathers.
This calls for concern, especially when you hear tales of rich and powerful men
usurping their positions for sex. Women are regularly sexually assaulted at
their work places and at job interviews.
Consider the plight of
nurses, for example. They are frequently harassed for sexual favours by men old
enough to be their fathers. Just because a nurse has taken care of them in the
hospital, some feel that they are entitled to see her knickers.
Some men wrongly think
that nurses are there for their pleasure and so, they trouble them for sex by
using different guises. Some use their position and money to influence the
women. This puts the weak nurses in a vulnerable position to accede to these
immoral requests. And the moment they have taken the devil’s money, they may
have to pay with your bodies.
Even the poor are not
spared. House helps are often raped and impregnated by their employer’s
husband, thereby leading to serious problems for these young girls and further
hardship in the family. Many of them, who are as young as 14 and 15 years, have
their lives ruined by teenage pregnancy and unwanted babies.
In the news
A 39-year-old man
defiled a 12-year-old girl. The man confessed that he lured the girl with a
packet of biscuits and he had done the same thing to her older sister. Such a
case can be really troubling. And it begs these questions: “What is wrong
with the African man as regards sex? Are they so horny and addicted to sex?
Why this interest in children and teenagers when there are experienced and
grown up women around? What is wrong with their wives’ vagina?”
The rising spate of
sexual molestation, harassment, rape and violence against women demands urgent
government action. The police must be active and ready to take up the challenge
of public prosecution of offenders. Let us know who they are, their families,
where they live, their states of origin and then the appropriate punishment.
prescribed for offenders must be severe enough to deter others.
I firmly believe that
shaming their whole families will help in stemming the tide of such crimes.
Please, send me your
thoughts and let us explore the burden of rampant paedophilia and sexual
molestation syndrome in Africa. It is our social and moral responsibility to