Typically you can have
sex about six weeks after delivering a baby.Of course this does not mean
you want to have sex, it just means your body will not explode if you have sex
at this time.
Sincerely, sex after childbirth could be scary and difficult.
It is not just that you still look pregnant, your nipples are dripping milk and
you are really tired; it is all about the fact that sex after childbirth can
actually hurt.
For
the past few weeks now we have discussed this topic and it is just best to
state the reason why sex could be painful after childbirth.
The
extra stitch. If you had a vaginal birth and tore naturally or the doctor had
to cut the perineum; the space between the vagina and the anus and you needed
stitches and you got the extra, unnecessary stitch at the perineum that is
supposed to make your vaginal opening smaller. (Though sometimes women
ask for this, most of the time they don’t. Some women don’t even know
they got this, all they know is that their vagina feels smaller and they have
no idea why). This can cause pain with sex. It is not that the stitch does not
heal correctly; it is the fact that your vagina is smaller. This can lead to
pains.
No
extra stitches. These stitches will heal well, but sometimes they can leave you
with scar tissue at the perineum. This can be really problematic with sex
because scar tissue makes everything tighter and more sensitive. It can
make muscles in your vagina too tense when they are supposed to be
relaxing.
Natural
tear. This is the same as above. Even with natural tearing you are going
to have some scar tissue. If you don’t work through this scar tissue, massage
and knead it, then it can create painful sex.
Breastfeeding,
vagina dryness and low libido. Breastfeeding can lower your natural hormone
levels inside and outside the vagina, making sex dry and lowering your sex
drive. If you don’t have sex drive, your vagina will not get wet. When your
vagina doesn’t get wet enough, there is friction and this feels like sandpaper
and tearing. If you experience this, use some lubricant.
5.
Having sex and worrying about the baby waking or being in the room. The
good thing about the pelvic floor; the support muscles in the pelvis that keep
up all your organs and span from all around your vagina and clitoris to all
around your anus and from one hip to the other, basically is that they
respond to your thoughts. Your pelvic floor is a mind reader. When you
are scared, nervous, anxious or uncomfortable, your pelvic floor muscles will
automatically respond and tense up. This makes vagina and your anus smaller; in
that moment. This is a really primitive response. It is your body’s
old-fashioned way of trying to protect your reproductive parts. It is important
that you have sex when the timing is right for your mind. When your brain is
more relaxed, your vagina is more relaxed.
Cesarean
section. Just like the stitches, c-sections leave scars. If you don’t work this
scar, the scar tissue will grow down into the layers beneath it and really
create problems. This can cause bladder problems, bowel problems and…painful
sex.
Attempted
vaginal delivery and a c-section. Both your pelvic floor and abdomen have
been through hell and back. You might have perineal tearing and a c-section
scar. Then you have a lot of reasons why sex could hurt, so work the scars in
both places to minimise and eliminate the problem.
If
you find yourself with any of the above, it is not the end of the world. The
very first thing to do is to let your doctor know. With this, you need a
specialist. Your gynecologist will be your best bet here. He will help you out
and if there is the need for you to see other specialists; then he can refer
you. It is not that bad though, the most important thing is for you to do the
right thing at the right time.
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